10 Sexy Gift Ideas to Spice Things Up in the Bedroom
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There comes a time in every relationship when things get . . . well, boring. Life gets busy and we fall into the same patterns and routines—especially inside the bedroom. Eventually, we start craving a little variety, some oomph to make things more interesting.
That’s why we’ve made a list of 10 Sexy Gift Ideas to Spice Things Up in the Bedroom. These gift ideas are perfect for Valentine’s Day, your anniversary, your loved one’s birthday, or even just a regular Tuesday, so you can surprise your partner with something to make them feel loved and desired. We’ve even included descriptions of how to tie them into your romantic night of love-making, so all you have to do is enjoy. What are you waiting for?
1. A Steamy Evening
With these gifts, it won’t take long for your lover to get the message. Light some candles, put on a sexy playlist, and get ready for a steamy bath or shower with your loved one. If you opt for a couples shower (perhaps because the tub is just not big enough) place a shower steamer in one corner. The steam will release a relaxing aroma as you hop in together and get busy! If you opt for a bath, fill it with bath salts and bubbles to set the mood. Then, when you hop out, wrap yourselves in comfy bathrobes and see where things go!
2. A Bedroom Board Game
The old adage just got more true: “It’s not whether you win or lose—it’s how you play the game.” Try an intimate couple’s board game like Spice It Up to… well, you know! Start with the “mild” cards and move up to “spicy” when you’re ready to get going. Or try Loopy, where one round will flip you (sometimes literally) upside down! Just spin the arrow, choose a card, and do the actions on the card. There are four levels of cards, so you can decide how racy you want things to get. Lastly, leave your basic strip poker at the door—Poker for Couples allows you to reap rewards beyond watching your partner take off their socks. With two ways to play, a quick game and an advanced game, you can tailor your experience to to the situation at hand, all leading up to the bedroom. Just be sure to snatch these games up quickly, as they tend to sell out!
3. New Lingerie
Dress up (or should we say dress down?) for the evening with a new set of luxury lingerie from La Perla or Fleur du Mal. The level of quality is visibly apparent compared to off-brands, with fine details and elegant patterns. Surprise your partner with a piece from these collections, either wearing it or gifting it, and the reaction is sure to be a good one.
(Looking for something a little more tame? Try searching our list of Valentine’s Day Gifts He Actually Wants)
4. A Pajama Upgrade
Be honest—what state are your pajamas in? The thing about sleepwear is it tends to get worn out over time. And while grungy sweats might be comfortable, they’re not always attractive. Upgrade your pajama set with something that fits both needs, comfort and style. You may be surprised how feeling and looking great when you get into bed will boost your love life.
5. A Candle with a (naughty) Purpose
If you want to light your lover’s fire—both literally and figuratively—gift them a candle that can only be used in the heat of the moment. Light a “sexy time” candle before you get intimate and blow it out after so over time you will see how much time you’ve spent getting busy. Also great are massage oil candles, which melt down quickly and you can pour the wax on your partner’s body to use as massage oil. For some of them, the oil is even edible!
(If you want to impress her with something thoughtful, try one of these Valentine’s Day Gifts that Aren’t Cheesy)
6. A Little Black book of Love
Surprise your lover with The Little Black Book of Kama Sutra, a modern take on the classic art of lovemaking. Add in a set of large blank dice so you can fill in the blanks yourselves positions from the book, or your imagination. Then, leave your evening up to chance and the roll of the dice.
7. Romance in a Box
Sometimes it’s nice when all you need for romance is wrapped neatly in a box and delivered to your door. That’s the benefit of these boxes from Romance Helpers—you can set the mood with ease. Choose which box suits your romantic needs best and surprise your loved one with rose petals on the bed, candles lit, and your loving arms waiting for them.
(How about chocolate fondue for dessert? It’s a piece of cake with our Easy Fondue Date)
8. Risqué Love Notes
We love Knock Knock’s fill-in-the-blank What I Love About You book because you can write in anything—and we mean anything. Entries like, “You give the best ____” and “I love remembering the time we ____” and “I love to ____ your ____” leave much up to interpretation. (There’s also plenty of room for notes and drawings.) Likewise, the tear-off notepad What I Love About You Today allows you to fill in blanks like “I’m excited to ____ you today” and “I’m kind of in love with your ____ today.” It also leaves room to be plenty specific in the empty section at the bottom, so you can change it up and write frisky love notes back and forth as desired.
9. A Sensual Massage
Massage is a great way to get relaxed before an intimate evening together, which is why some at-home massage basics are the perfect gift. Start with Massage for Couples by Ashley Dwyer LMT, which offers practical illustrations on how to do basic massage at home. Then bring out Maple Holistic’s Sensual Massage Oil and Serene Life’s Hot Stone Massage Set for a hands-on romantic evening.
10. Glow In the Dark Fun
Unleash your creative side in the bedroom with a set of Glow in the Dark Body Paints. All you need are some soft brushes, paints, a sheet you don’t mind turning florescent, and a few Black Light Bulbs. Paint drawings and patterns onto each other’s skin so your love-making glows in the dark. This might seem out-there, but you’re here to spice things up, right? Try something new!
(Anniversary coming up? Birthday? Explore all of our gift ideas >>>)
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